Comments on: Rebounds & Hookups Create Drama and Confusion http://www.ihatemen.org/2008/05/15/rebounds-hookups-create-drama-and-confusion/ World's Largest Women Driven Social Media Website Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:48:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: JustSingle http://www.ihatemen.org/2008/05/15/rebounds-hookups-create-drama-and-confusion/comment-page-1/#comment-7484 JustSingle Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:33:14 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=111#comment-7484 I totally agree with this comment from a better woman: "I think I’d rather find the almost perfect, so close to being everything kind of guy versus the guy that seems perfect, only because he is doing & being what he thinks you want." I was with someone for three years until I finally realized, I don't even know him. He has reasoned for having an identity crisis, but he never gave me a chance to see the things about him that never change. As I grew more and more honest he moved further and further from me and funny thing is that he pursued me and persuaded me into the relationship! Nobody is going to understand why I broke up with him because he seems perfect. I just want something REAL and I want us to be free together. I totally agree with this comment from a better woman:

“I think I’d rather find the almost perfect, so close to being everything kind of guy versus the guy that seems perfect, only because he is doing & being what he thinks you want.”

I was with someone for three years until I finally realized, I don’t even know him. He has reasoned for having an identity crisis, but he never gave me a chance to see the things about him that never change. As I grew more and more honest he moved further and further from me and funny thing is that he pursued me and persuaded me into the relationship! Nobody is going to understand why I broke up with him because he seems perfect. I just want something REAL and I want us to be free together.

]]> By: Marge Temple http://www.ihatemen.org/2008/05/15/rebounds-hookups-create-drama-and-confusion/comment-page-1/#comment-6781 Marge Temple Thu, 15 Oct 2009 04:38:20 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=111#comment-6781 This guy I know, knew, asked me to come to his town for a visit. I had trouble with the directions and I was 3 hours late. He told me only a 'Strange" person could miss the street exit. I missed the exit because: 1.) I almost got hit by another car, 2.) I dropped the cell phone talking to him-he said I hung up on him, 3.) I couldn't get over to the exit. So he sends me a text and literally told me to get Lost! I was already lost! These are the real reasons he acted like he did: 1.) He is the 'Strange' one and I'm glad we didn't hook up, 2.) He got back with his girl an didn't know how to tell me like a man 3.) He's trying to make all this my fault so I'll come running to him, therefore, giving him the "Upper Hand" in the relationship, 4.) He's with a dangerousTrippy Female like himself. I'm glad we didn't hook up and we won't be hooking up! I don't need a house to fall on me to tell me to LEAVE HIM ALONE! He's a Gemini! This guy I know, knew, asked me to come to his town for a visit. I had trouble with the directions and I was 3 hours late. He told me only a ‘Strange” person could miss the street exit. I missed the exit because: 1.) I almost got hit by another car, 2.) I dropped the cell phone talking to him-he said I hung up on him, 3.) I couldn’t get over to the exit. So he sends me a text and literally told me to get Lost! I was already lost! These are the real reasons he acted like he did: 1.) He is the ‘Strange’ one and I’m glad we didn’t hook up, 2.) He got back with his girl an didn’t know how to tell me like a man 3.) He’s trying to make all this my fault so I’ll come running to him, therefore, giving him the “Upper Hand” in the relationship, 4.) He’s with a dangerousTrippy Female like himself. I’m glad we didn’t hook up and we won’t be hooking up! I don’t need a house to fall on me to tell me to LEAVE HIM ALONE! He’s a Gemini!

]]> By: GMcG http://www.ihatemen.org/2008/05/15/rebounds-hookups-create-drama-and-confusion/comment-page-1/#comment-4183 GMcG Sat, 28 Mar 2009 21:58:38 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=111#comment-4183 Hi Erin. You only see what you want to. When you worried about loneliness, you had sex with the 'bad boy' - when you met someone with better long term prospects, the 'bad boy' became a slime ball. And the new long-term guy is, in your words Erin, "completely perfect". The guy you rejected is a slime ball and the guy you chose is perfect? I think you're the slime ball here. This guy gave up his girlfriend to go with you but you just wanted sex and adventure. Then you make out that it was his behaviour that drove you away, rather than you finding something better. You used him for sport. Well, he did take a risk on the unexpected but didn't get what he was looking for. Hi Erin. You only see what you want to. When you worried about loneliness, you had sex with the ‘bad boy’ – when you met someone with better long term prospects, the ‘bad boy’ became a slime ball. And the new long-term guy is, in your words Erin, “completely perfect”.

The guy you rejected is a slime ball and the guy you chose is perfect?

I think you’re the slime ball here. This guy gave up his girlfriend to go with you but you just wanted sex and adventure. Then you make out that it was his behaviour that drove you away, rather than you finding something better. You used him for sport.

Well, he did take a risk on the unexpected but didn’t get what he was looking for.

]]> By: Scott http://www.ihatemen.org/2008/05/15/rebounds-hookups-create-drama-and-confusion/comment-page-1/#comment-2721 Scott Sun, 14 Sep 2008 13:53:26 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=111#comment-2721 Can I just say THANK YOU You have no idea how much it annoys me when a hear chicks going out with cheaters. Now I understand why chicks go out with guys who cheat (long story that I won't go into). But the fact that you said no and went out with some worthwhile....great stuff. You have a strong sense of character. Can I just say THANK YOU

You have no idea how much it annoys me when a hear chicks going out with cheaters. Now I understand why chicks go out with guys who cheat (long story that I won’t go into).

But the fact that you said no and went out with some worthwhile….great stuff. You have a strong sense of character.

]]> By:   Can I Forgive Him? — I HATE MEN http://www.ihatemen.org/2008/05/15/rebounds-hookups-create-drama-and-confusion/comment-page-1/#comment-1831   Can I Forgive Him? — I HATE MEN Fri, 16 May 2008 20:26:24 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=111#comment-1831 [...] of getting hurt, and scared of hurting me. I am scared too, but I think I am going to take the advice of Erin, “Take a risk on the unexpected it might just be what you’re looking [...] [...] of getting hurt, and scared of hurting me. I am scared too, but I think I am going to take the advice of Erin, “Take a risk on the unexpected it might just be what you’re looking [...]

]]> By: a better woman http://www.ihatemen.org/2008/05/15/rebounds-hookups-create-drama-and-confusion/comment-page-1/#comment-1828 a better woman Fri, 16 May 2008 15:40:20 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=111#comment-1828 Hi Erin, I can totally related with your confusion of boys. I've also been in a relationship where I was "the other girl"...the guy I was seeing was separated, but still married. This relationship was on-and-off for about 2 years, but I always felt like I was second because of the ties to his daughter and his ex's family. And the fear of him cheating was always in the back of my mind... I think it is better that you moved on past this guy. I found relationships with so much drama and complications are often very draining, and require full commitment by both parties...something that is difficult when it appears you are already apprehensive about this guy. It sounds like the guy you chose has much more respect for you than the 26 year old did. Just don't make the mistake of putting this new guy on a pedestal because he seems so perfect. Keep him at your level, as you will get to see him as he truly is... I think I'd rather find the almost perfect, so close to being everything kind of guy versus the guy that seems perfect, only because he is doing & being what he thinks you want. Hi Erin,

I can totally related with your confusion of boys. I’ve also been in a relationship where I was “the other girl”…the guy I was seeing was separated, but still married. This relationship was on-and-off for about 2 years, but I always felt like I was second because of the ties to his daughter and his ex’s family. And the fear of him cheating was always in the back of my mind…

I think it is better that you moved on past this guy. I found relationships with so much drama and complications are often very draining, and require full commitment by both parties…something that is difficult when it appears you are already apprehensive about this guy.

It sounds like the guy you chose has much more respect for you than the 26 year old did. Just don’t make the mistake of putting this new guy on a pedestal because he seems so perfect. Keep him at your level, as you will get to see him as he truly is…

I think I’d rather find the almost perfect, so close to being everything kind of guy versus the guy that seems perfect, only because he is doing & being what he thinks you want.

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