Comments on: Why Lie…What is the Reason for Lying?

By: Guest

Guest — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 04:34:00 +0000

This sounds like exactly what I’m going through. You took the feelings right out of my gut….it’s so weird how one lie can make you confused about everything about that person and make you question every moment you’ve shared with that guy…like am i just a joke to you? I don’t understand. I really do believe that they are cowards.

By: Urubuntu

Urubuntu — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 16:37:00 +0000

She goes and I come.

By: Urubuntu

Urubuntu — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 16:35:00 +0000

lol

By: Tornadohair

Tornadohair — Sat, 15 Jan 2011 23:33:00 +0000

This guy lied why? There was no reason for him to lie. Straight up and honest is the way he should of played it. He has a character flaw so get away from him asap. He is not that into you. He should of never answered the phone if he cared for your feelings. If the shoe was on the other foot and he cared deeply for you I wonder how he would feel. If he lied about this imagine how much more he will in the future. Run. There’s a lot he is not telling you. Red flag. See the red flags this is one of them. Run.

By: Hazzmatty

Hazzmatty — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 20:27:00 +0000

To the OP, trust me, i think it be in your best interest to avoid men at all costs. You are one big headache.

Avoid those OVER emotional women men, or you will be saying “somebody KILL me.”

This chick is tripping and talking about crying and shit cuz some guy lied to her. Shit, i’m STILL not convinced any woman has yet told me the truth concerning anything whatsoever.

Some chick called this other guy, he lied and said it was his friend Jeremy, and you are freaking out. MAYBE he is shopping around for some fun or something cuz you drain him and are overly emo, plus you claim he is your GUY friend, so maybe it was just some chick he is trying to score with or date or something and maybe he didnt think you’d like it cuz you are just a weirdo and aint even dating him anymore or having sex with him. You SEEM like you are actually his creepy girlfriend he wants to shake off his leg, yet you two aren’t having sex, so ya aint his girlfriend, so give it a rest. And IF you were his friend, and friend only, you shouldn’t really give a shit about one stupid lie. People often lie cuz they dont even know the truth anyway, and ya get used to it.

Yeah, WHY are you blowing off all those desperate guys who like your annoying emo ass anyway since this is your guy friend who makes ya cry, freak out, go insane, wrap yourself up as one tormented soul that needs babysat maybe cuz he lied to you. Hell, nobody likes being lied to. I don’t like when i call whatever customer service and someone just makes something up cuz they aint packing the knoweldge to answer my question. Still, you live to be lied to another day.

By: Hazzmatty

Hazzmatty — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 20:10:00 +0000

You go girl. Wow. Some chick actually stuck up for a man. Ya got to like those free thinkers who separate from THE big mother universal child bearing hip. Very few and far between though. Usually, some chick says “my boyfriend stumped his toe and he is a clumbsy idiot! Why do i put up with it!? He embarassed me!” and most women will say after having read it, “if this man continues with his clumbsy ways, it’s time to move on. You deserve better than that” just because some other woman didn’t like it, and women like to feel “normal” – therefore all connected, atleast when it comes to siding with eachother in the face of big mean man…however, have a hard time dealing with eachother’s issues….over trivial issues on a day by day basis.

By: Girl

Girl — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:37:00 +0000

Sounds like the guy knew you were gonna freak out n so lied to you. And he was right – read your thoughts – it’s what I call pms thinking. One lie – and your whole world crashes down????? Your world ought to be made of stronger stuff – else any guy will blow it away.

Leave dating , workout , test for pms and take pills if necessary , pick up hobbies n learn to be happy by yourself. Have sensible guy friends with no sex for a while.

Then resume dating – am a girl n I used to talk like u – but u are far worse than me.

By: Scott

Scott — Tue, 18 May 2010 15:29:58 +0000

It’s a stab to the heart. A lie. Stab. Stab Stab Stab. And so…you feel it. Maybe this is why parents let children believe in Santa Clause because in a sick way maybe parents want to be the first to stab their own blood with a lie. What? Huh? Wait…..what? Santa Claus doesn’t exist little girl. BUT YOU TOLD ME HE DID!

And from there a child knows the power of the lie. This power has many elements. “Telling lies is ok” “I never want to be lied to again” “I’ll never lie like that to MY child!” “There must be a good reason to lie” to name just a few.

The elements swim together in a deep pool. Swirling around and around. Eventually some will come to the surface. The child will experiment with those. Eventually the pool evaporates and the child is left with the elements that had risen to the surface for him (or her). So long ago……

By: Chach

Chach — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 01:21:15 +0000

This just happened to me. I was led on by a guy for several months who said he was single, never married and did not have children. Said he just never had time as his career takes him all over and was too demanding, not only that, but his upbringing with his parents always fighting,made him decided he was better off single. Like a fool I believed him, I havent dated in 1o years either so my skills are rusty and it was nice seeing someone in a long time, but I had not been around anyone like him and was not accustomed to being blatently lied to.
I also was injured and had my sister staying here so for a few months to help out, so he just emailed me from all over, as his job takes him all over the state
anyway, after she left I thought I would see him more, and I did a few times, but that job of his, he said, just kept taking him away,, claimed he was an investigator and I had good reason to belive him as I met him thru emergency services as a patient, and he was taking a test that next day or so he said for his job, so really I had no reason not to believe him. Not to mention he didn’t live in my city but 45 miles away,which made it even harder for us to get together, but since he made it into town he would always call me when he was on his way long story short I got tired o all the weird things and odd times, but being a emergency worker, he said that’s just the nature of the beast, so how are you to know? Things weren’t adding up, and my gut, was feeling flight or fright, so I had his license plate ran and long story short, I found his wife on his truck 1st for ownership, got the address, did reverse look up and sure enough, his address with hers and kids, looked them up on FB wouldn’t you know those kids look just like him! Hes nuttin but a LYAH AND CHEETAH!
He played me for a huge fool, and Im old enough to know better, but sometimes because of circumstances in our own lives, we want to believe them, I mean serious, not having been with anyone in 1o years, I just thought and hoped I had met a nice guy,,,,,turns out I DID NOT!
Lesson learned, hes just lucky im not one of those that would call her or FB her and tell her, cause I would not want to cause anyone any pain intentionally, but I hope shes on to him! Imagine, he lies so good, I cant even begin to tell you all the crap he told me, imagine what he tells his wife, and he does have a job that takes him away all the time, hes probably been doing this for a while cause hes very good at what he does. I looked up NPD and antisocial or sociopath and he fits the bill cause he just lies lies lies,,, so I’m not sure if anything he told me is true now. Really makes one second guess your judgment. His poor wife probably doesn’t even know who he really is.
Its plumb scary out there, I think I will just go back to my quiet simple single life, cause I dont need the drama. Oh yeah, and if you question them, they turn it around and tell you your crazy and emotional! HUH? That pissed me off.
They are manipulators! Guess hes been getting away with it for a long time! He probably says that to his wife too! GEEZ!
My advice, do some research, find someone to run plates, but listen to your gut, and run like hell if you think your being lied to you probably are.
Good LUCK! Sorry , cause it hurt like hell and its taken me several months to get over this!

By: patty

patty — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 23:45:32 +0000

I know I’m going to sound cold and bitter, but in all my life (49 years), I have yet to find a man who hasn’t lied to me. I keep thinking that right around the corner there is going to be a man who won’t do that, but I’m always wrong. I found out today that my husband has been lying to me. I’m not new at this whole relationship thing, and you’d think I’d know how to pick a good man….but is there any good ones out there? I’ve done everything i could to please him and love him, yet this is what I get. I’m just SOOOO sick of it. I’m better off alone than to be married to someone who would treat me like this.I deserve better than this and I’m not going to take it anymore. My advice for everyone….don’t let a man be everything in your life, because when you let that happen, and they hurt you, you feel like you’ve lost everything.

By: Rose

Rose — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 21:37:21 +0000

No. A man that lies to you probably doesn’t care about you very much. So, dump his ass and move on from that. I’d dump him in a second. It’s like a weight lifted off your shoulders. Trust me. There are plenty of fish in the sea. And don’t worry if you can’t find someone right away to take his place. Work on you. Love yourself and spend time doing the things you love with the people you love.

By: Janie

Janie — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 08:21:09 +0000

he lied. A girl called him late at night and chances are it was what it sounds like: a booty call. He fell right back asleep afterwards and he was with you (a girl), so he probably didn’t feel like leaving right then and hooking up with her. He’s a guy; he knows he can call her the following day and hook up later.

I’d pursue those other guys who are interested in you and leave this guy to himself so he can grow up. Either he’ll get a clue and realize how important and great it is to be honest with your friends, or he’ll continue to live like a little boy and lie for no real reason.

i’m sorry you cried yourself to sleep that night – that’s the worse! When you are awake crying RIGHT NEXT TO THE GUY who made you cry, while his dumb ass falls right asleep and he slumbers like a little baby. Who woke up feeling fine the next day? My guess is the liar.