Why Do I Feel Like This?

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I can’t understand why I’m lying here crying…why can’t I just tell him how I feel, why am I so scared? Is it because it is so real?

I’ve done it again, I placed someone of a pedestal and I’m not sure it is where they belong. I need to bring him down to my level, so that I can see him from a different perspective. He’s just like me, he’s not perfect. I have to stop being afraid to tell him how I feel…I guess what I am most afraid of is that I do not know what he will say back…does he really like me? How much? I must like him a lot since I have not been able to get him off my mind.

Do I tell him I think he might be everything I have always been looking for…I’m not sure now, because I am starting to question how much I know him. Once he started pushing away I just shut down…I couldn’t figure out what I did wrong. I wasn’t pushing or pulling too much, I was just being me, I mean maybe he doesn’t like me, maybe he wants to find someone else…I guess it is possible that we are not right for each other, I just thought we could be perfect together…I just felt this strong connection with him…I still feel a connection, but it has changed.

I want him to be happy, I want to make him happy, I wish I knew the right thing to do…

  • a414

    Hello – if I could give you any advice this is what it would be:

    “Decide with your heart on who you want laugh with, cuddle with, take to family gatherings, hang out comfortably with your friends, cry to, eat like a pig with and not be embarrassed, wake up next to, who you truly go to bed loving…etc.”

    If you still can’t figure it out talk to each of them figure out where they stand and what THEIR hopes for the future are compared to yours. Where are you in life? Are you in a stable situation – ready for a long-term relationship? Are they?

    I am positive the decision that you end up making will work out in the end. I wish you the best of luck.

  • westcoastcutie

    “I want him to be happy, I want to make him happy, I wish I knew the right thing to do…”

    What about what u want? What about making sure you are happy first? You can’t make anyone happy but yourself. Do you want a relationship with a man who makes you feel this insecure?

  • Me

    You need to take a break and find out what you actually like that has nothing to do with him. What do you want to be in life , what are your own dreams. I know how you feel cause i’ve felt like that twice, once with my ex and with my boyfriend now. My ex took the utter p*ss because he knew I loved him , but I am really proud. See he won’t love you if you don’t love yourself, and he won’t be proud to be yours if you act like he is doing you a favour. I know it must sound like games and believe me i know my advice is harder to follow than to state but you really need to be SLIGHT BI*CH. Be selfish and have fun with your friends and live cause you will give him so much of yourself you need some left for you. Also the more in control of your life you are, the stronger a person you are, the more confident you will be , the more attractive you will seem. My ex tried to come back once he realised that i was not gonna hop around like a headless chicken for him . My boyfriend now , although we argue, I use my head first before my heart. Your heart makes you do stupid things sometimes use it when things are good, but if they go bad tell yourself what you would tell someone else. Ultimately you have two options , what you want to do and what you know you should do. The harder one is normally the best for me. Good luck i have gone on a bit but relationships can be hard so calm down and take time for yourself. He is not God.

  • Andrea

    I don’t know how old you are, I hope very young though. A man is a human being, not God. Stop putting so much importance in him, he isn’t doing this for you. Men don’t operate like that, they are much more selfish and narcissistic.

    The closer you get, the more they pull back, this is very common. Do not express your feelings for him, let him do it first. In the meantime, you should seek counseling, if you continue to view yourself as nothing and place all importance on him (or any man) you have a very, very tough life. I’m not trying to be mean or derogatory towards you, but the truth is nobody respects/loves a person that doesn’t respect/love themself.

  • pinata

    You’re obviously very young, at least I hope!! Here’s the
    deal. Men fall all over you to make you like them, they do whatever they can to
    have sex with you. They do this to most attractive women, usually many simultaneously. 
    Some hit it once and disappear, others stick around for a little bit to get
    more sex and see whatever other ego stroking you’ll do for them. Ultimately
    they get bored and put their energy into the next victim. They will either
    slowly pull away most likely with the hope of keeping you on a string so they can
    get more sex when they strike out elsewhere, or they disappear abruptly. Even
    the abruptly disappearing ones sometimes come back for more sex, but not so
    soon. My advice is to enjoy yourself sexually and not get involved too deeply,
    because unless you want to spend the rest of your life in this little trap,
    that’s what’s gonna happen.

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