How to choose the right guy to date?
I am sure many of you are here because you “hate men“, but do you really hate all men or just a few that pissed you off.
Well maybe not the best question, but I personally do not hate men. If you have read a little about me you will find that I am single, but I certainly do not want to be single forever. I have picked wrong guys in the past, so now I am more choosy when looking for a new man.
The New Year is approaching, so lets start fresh.
First you need to take care of yourself…really what nice guys wants a girl that is falling apart. Get your career on track, manage your money well, find new interest or pick up an old one (interest not habit), start exercising, eat well, and take time for you. I mean seriously, how are you going to have a healthy relationship if you’re not healthy.
For the fresh start I think it is best to clean up the past. Apologies to those you wronged, take responsibility for what you have done and do what is necessary to make it better, and eliminate activities and relationships that drain you.
Now it is time to find Mr. Right.
No Comfort Zone Allowed
Get out of your comfort zone and start meeting people. Go to new places, and make new friends. It is also a good idea to know what you are looking for so you don’t waste your time or anyone else’s time. If you don’t like kids, and the guy has three it’s best to not get involved.
Communication Skills
When you are out, pay attention to how you communicate with others. Communication is important in every relationship, so make sure you listen well and speak what you mean. It is also important to focus on now…don’t let yourself get caught up in the past.
Be Open Minded
When you are looking for Mr. Right, you don’t need to have everything in common…look for someone that has several shared interest with you. You don’t need to do everything together.
I use to think that the color of someone’s hair, how much they weigh, or how tall they were was a non-negotiable requirement…I have come to learn it was what I thought I wanted. Remember it is not all about looks, or even having similar interest…there is much more to a relationship than that.
Relationship Requirements
To have a lasting relationship find someone with similar values.
Chemistry is a must. Just remember attraction alone is not enough to sustain a relationship.
In order to get love right, you need to choose someone you admire and respect. A love of equals.
Find someone with purpose to their lives. Then support each other and help each other achieve goals.
Find someone you trust. Build trust with each other and gain emotional safety.
Share a healthy self esteem to build a good strong relationship. Let your partner know they matter, are important in the world, and have much to contribute.
Find and give support for your life, plans, and dreams.
Remember, relationships that last have the qualities that endure, such as kindness, intelligence, honesty, patience, and vibrancy.
Happy Dating!
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Very good post, Better Woman! It’s about time someone got this stuff right…
Once again, I’m a red-blooded, heterosexual American male posting on a site titled “I Hate Men”, but I’m not here to bash anyone. I’m here to give structured opinions. Coming from this male…Ladies, DO NOT think you’ll find the right guy in a bar. Bars are for going out with your friends and having a good time, not picking up potential dating partners.
Another thing, if there are any males secretly reading this, guys, you need to be open-minded too. Not every girl has to be 6 foot, blonde and big tits, or dress like a whore…as a matter of fact, stay away from them, they’re nothing but basketcases. If you look for that, expect a one-night stand. And DO NOT think you’ll find the right girl in a bar. Bars are for going out with your friends and having a good time, not picking up potential dating partners.
“Be open-minded”… on this site… Yeah, let`s redefine irony.
Hey Haos,
If you have read a little about this site you will see that ihatemen.org fully supports open-mindedness…
This is not a man hating site, and I do not support misandry. Women may come to this site because they are upset over a man and type “i hate men” into a search engine, but once they come here I want them to see that being a man hater is not going to make their problems go away.
I put a lot of thought into the issues that women face, and try to address it in a fun and support manner. Maybe this is a new concept to men in Poland…
[...] guess everyone wants to find that “perfect” relationship, but I think that there are relationship requirements that need to be met in order to even come close to getting it [...]
Am i right being pissed or am I crazy?
So a few months ago my husband tells me. I have been keeping something from you. There’s this woman and we’ve been texting, we’re just friends, but I feel like I’ve been hiding it from you. blah blah blah He says I can see teh texts, funny, but when I go to look at his phone they’re erased. When I check the phone recordes it is 247 texts in two days. So I tell him i’m not comfortable with it and ask what are you texting about blah blah blah. He said she’s buying a car and wants his opionion. She’s married, her husbad knows they’re texting and doesn’t care. He says he will stop texting if it makes me uncomfortable. and does
so I’m trying to be okay with it, but I’m not. Next thing i know i take my computer to go on fb and he’s logged in and there’s a conversation between them on the screen. i’ve never seen him grab the computer so quick away from me and log out. He says it’s his business, i have no right to read it. but to me it appears something is being hidden from me. ok huge arguement.
ends in me saying me or their friendship (btw just started talking the week before at a bar and the texting began, but did know each other as aquitanances.) he says u can’t choose my friends and make me stop talking to someone, nothing is going on. Ends up he says ok i won’t be friends with her. i guess they don’t talk
then today months after it all started he calls me to pick him up at a bar. i walk in to see him with his arms around a girl, her head on his check and the text girl on the other side of him. Two or three other people in the bar. mind u he’s been out since the early morning with lots of people and calls me now? So i walk up stunned, order a drink and sit. he says aren’t u going to be socialable, I say no. i told him u should have called me when u were ready to go. I was uncomfortable so I left. He gets mad. I went back to get him, he refuses to get in the car and begins walking home.
I go in the bar to talk to this text woman and her husband. I was nice and pleasant just explained i left bc i was uncomfortable and i was uncomfortable with the texting etc. her husband said it didn’t bother him, i said good, but did me.
so in the meantime my husband is walking home, i follow him so he doesn’t get hit and he’s yelling and screaming bc i embarrassed him in front of people. i was cordial to her, i didn’t raise my voice or anything.
What it boils down to for me that he doesn’t get, is that if roles were reversed and i did this he would be pissed beyond belief. so am i justified in being pissed? i need feedback…
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