I’m tired of living in Miami, I tried to give it a chance but it’s not working out. This place is the most superficial city that can and will keep you single for a long time simply because men have many options, easy options and do not have to work for anything to happen. Miami has been rated before as one of the most miserable cities, one of the dumbest cities and the worst place to have a family. Most women in Miami look like supermodels, toned bodies, beautiful skin, dressed to the nines or barely any clothes so if you weight 140 lbs like me and have a skin disease known as vitiligo guys are not exactly lining up for you. I used to be really thin and tall but guys never asked me when they saw the white spots on my skin and always thought ” I can do better” or “What will my friends/family think?” They suddenly ignored me, never called me back, were rude after realizing I had a condition outside of my control so I made the math in my mind and just relaxed about men and that it will never happen for me. I don’t want to get married or have kids for this and other important reasons, it’s just too dangerous to build a life around some guy and a kid that may get hurt later on life and of course it’s jut me to emotionally/psychologically/spiritually get worse.
Yet I love to give affection, support and love to someone I give a fuck about, or at this point a stranger would do but men make it so damn difficult I feel like I’m walking into a labyrinth when I’m with one. Guys love to say that women are too complicated but men are also guilty of being rather unclear, confusing and just full of it. We have come up with such ways to make basic human relations so fucking hard to get into by writing ridiculous dating books with “rules” full of nonsense that even if two people like each other they may break apart at the slightest offense or misunderstanding. Thanks for nothing idiots, our grandparents didn’t need any damn books with rules such “don’t call him before three days” to successfully date or court, get into a relationship, marry and have all this lovely people in your family. I know that at the core this is a plan to disintegrate society and make us weaker for control, I read about the Illuminati and their plans and I see it all happening right now.
Modern men have such passivity it drives insane when it’s associated with feminism as if a woman wanting to have her own money, the right to vote and own property denied for generations ruins men ability to still be men. If that is the case then im pretty sure men are very weak underneath their non caring attitude.
However I do recognize that radical feminism (different from the original movement) has indeed made major harm.For example girls are too easy here,they condition men to treat us like dirt and in return guys call us bitches, don’t pursue us, are too passive and if you are not nearly perfect they don’t want you at all. It takes both genders to get to this mess, men got in this condition because of women and viceversa women they talk about their sex lives loudly in elevators and have no modesty or tact, honestly they brought on themselves to have horrible men by their side.
Guys also have it too easy all they do is go down to a club and meet stunning amazonian women with colleges degrees and ready to go to bed with them the same night….that way they don’t have to bother with women like me with health problems, spirituality, a love for knowledge and a certain degree of shyness…and if they want to get married there are “the special girls” ready to tie the knot.They’d be idiots to not take things that come to them easy. So when they get used to women paying attention, chasing them and having sex with them nice and easy without any effort on their part. Mind you, these women who give it up easily are only around for a short time because the man gets bored, but unfortunately it’s kind of spoiling it for the rest of us and making men passive and lazy!
When things are easily accessible and in unlimited quantities; they tend to be taken for granted and lose value and this applies to women and sex.
In fact my only boyfriend at 26 years old( only lasted a month) left me as soon as I got hypothyroidism and I went alone to hospitals almost dying..so it’s just not in my head..guys don’t like sick chicks but he had a busted leg and aspergers and didn’t ****ing bother me. Also he was the stereotype of the nice guy geek all day in the computer which tells me that it really doesn’t matter what they do or don’t do. The so called nice guys, the nerds and geeks, the spiritual one, the poetic one, the sensitive one have been the equivalent of a bulldozer running through my spine while the tough guy is looking more appealing to me, perhaps he is more of an actual satisfaction even if he’s a jerk and I have never dated one..but im getting sick of these crying softies…
I know all guys are not like this because then I read about a girl in Miami which her boyfriend came from another state after talking online and she got a stroke, but the guy stood by her side the whole time in the hospital and then married her some time later and she didn’t look like a supermodel, of course the guy was not from Miami or any place in Florida so it really depends…
I just found this research article conforming my suspicions “A lot of women who are serious, who come from more conservative backgrounds, find it very hard to start relationships with men in Miami because they’ve been effected by women who are very easy, so male expectations for intimacy are pretty high.” BINGO I thought I was crazy for believing such thing in the first, but honest observations rarely fail.
I’m sorry English is not my first language and me being a caribbean Spanish woman I thought it would be different for me at this stage of my life when all my friends are already married or have someone important in their lives yet none of these girls have my problem and they really haven’t encountered rejections like mine. Some days I feel in total peace about it, some others I want to kill men and have violent fantasies mixed with spiritualism and “the right behavior” to go about this. There’s no right behavior, I’m hurt yet cool about this earthy experiences and my response has been satisfactory yet utterly devoid of love, passion and caring for a male…
This post was submitted by sarahan.