Give me one thing men are good at that a woman or a machine cant do.
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Give me one thing men are good at that a woman or a machine cant do.
This post was submitted by Silence of Men.
Very long story that’s about my ex-boyfriend. We’ve been broken up for nearly seven months now and I’ve never been more heartbroken or angry about how things are working out. We used to go to the same school for the year and a half we were together, so we spent every day together in an acting studio. After we broke up he had already graduated so I assumed he wouldn’t be at the studio anymore and it would be easy to move on and get over him.
I was wrong. He continued to spend the last term at the studio everyday, claiming he needed to use the computers to write his play. (A few weeks ago I remembered he has a computer at home) So I didn’t understand. Anyway, while he was at the studio it was really hard to resist all the things I missed about him. The way he smells, how attractive he is, etc. He even joined some of the classes for the third years (my class) so I was even put together in a scene with him. He was being really nice and I knew he was trying to prove to me that he’d changed and eventually we could be together again.
Throughout the term he would want to talk to me about my personal life and people I had kissed, which I thought was totally unnecessary because it’s private from him now. He would consistently remind me I didn’t have to feel guilty about it, even though I never did. Every single time he would talk to me he would tell me he still loved me. I never said it back. I was making a real effort to move on because I know we work better as friends.
Anyway, things got to the point where we went out with a group of friends and I began to give into my urges with him and he ended up coming home with me and we cuddled on the couch and kissed. I stopped him right after and told him we shouldn’t be doing this, we need to move on from each other. I told him I was seeing someone else and he said I’d been leading him on by being friendly to him at the studio. I disagreed and told him I only began to lead him on that night when I kissed him because every other time I seen him it was pure friendship.
I kissed his best friend and he had brought this up to me once saying he was disappointed he had to hear it from him and I didn’t tell him myself. I personally believe that what I do in my personal life is none of his business. That night we got drunk he was making fun of his best friend, calling him a slut and saying I should never have kissed him. Saying that it was grosse because his best friend is quite the ladies man and I had kissed a lot of “pussies” which I thought was disgusting. And a mean thing to say about your best friend.
The whole time he was talking to me and trying to be my friend, he was convincing me there was nothing going on with his lady friend he’d been working for all summer and into the fall. And one night his best friend and I went out for drinks. He told me that the woman my ex has been working for has been staying at his house and he lied about how much time he’d been spending with her. I was super angry and admit I told his best friend out of anger but also out of a realization that men will say anything to get what they want, which I think is control. I told his best friend what he said about him previous nights before and he was really hurt. And now they’re fighting and aren’t even friends anymore. My ex admitted that he would choose me over his best friend and that he’s still not over me. I realized that my ex was trying to make his friend sound bad so that I wouldn’t want to like or kiss him again.
He made fun of all the people I’d kissed since we’d been broken up and it was none of his business. When my ex found out that I knew his boss was staying at his house, only after that did he admit to sleeping with her and that he had gone over to her house a few times too. I was furious. I’m at the point where I don’t believe anything he says because he’s just trying to manipulate me to make me see him as a good guy and so I will consider going back to him. He will even betray his friends.
AND what makes it worse is that I found out he slept with one of my friends that’s supposed to be like my sister, she’s in my class meaning I’ve spent the last three years with her. She’s been convincing me not to go back to him and always brings it up at the most random times. Her grandma recently passed away and I wished my condolences and in her thank you she mentioned my ex and how he’s not right for me. Which struck me as strange. Over the weekend the last time I talked to my ex (which is the last time ever!) he said he had only slept with two people since me, which is a lie because my classmate is the third.
It’s driving me crazy because we broke up so long ago and it doesn’t make sense for all this drama to be going on now. I feel like I’ve been betrayed by a lot of people around me and I’m heartbroken. I can’t ever trust him to tell me the truth and it hurts because I at least wanted to believe he was a good guy.
This post was submitted by Darla Contois.
Got home tonight from a gruelling 600 mile drive in subzero temps to find my neighbor had used her emergency key to get in and was crying her eyes out on our sofa. Seems she had a run in with her sister in laws useless excuse for a husband. (they share a multi family home) Just had to let her cry in frustration and offer her a stiff drink. I’m too tired to offer her advice on the spot so all I could do was comfort her and let her use the spare room tonight instead of going back to the house.
It apparently started when her sister in laws toddler fell down the last few stairs (they were carpeted) and banged his head on the downstairs door.. he got a heck of a fright and started bellowing in indignation. The brother in law panicked..even though the sister in law and Marg told him the youngster was fine.. he rounded on Marg pointed at her and said something like “dont you tell me he is fine. She told me the hate in his eyes was mind blowing. She said she could have passed it off except they had guests and he said it in front of everyone! (At that stage I was ready to go plant him one for her)
Anyway..after the guests had left he came to her and said he was sorry he said that, (even though it was obvious he isnt) and without waiting for an answer he turned to go..but she must have cracked and said something like “how dare you disrespect me in front of everyone”… (she is about 25 yrs older than him and an experienced mom) ..and the little turd bolted then and refused to talk to her again.
How do you deal with a guy who has such huge issues with his own failure to provide for his family that he takes it out on others? He has gone back to school and flunked last year so he is doing it again. His mommy still makes excuses for him.. but his wife is at the end of her tether and has told us this before… to the point of not socializing outside the home anymore because he is nasty when he is drunk.
Ok.. I think thats all of it and advice on this is welcomed. Marg moving out isnt an option.
Reading this back to myself..I think its the sister in law that needs to deal with it but I doubt that will happen.
So i’ve just been stood up. Any one can share some advice to get through it? Anyone have any stories to share? I literally cannot stop crying and I am extremely ashamed,embarrassed and full of self hatred.
This post was submitted by borntodie.
Such a great forum here! Thank you for allowing me to be a part of it!
Male here, age 43. I joined in part, to increase your membership because I hope this website get more and more popular. I truly feel it is time…time for women to take control in this world.
Men have all but completely failed and screwed up this planet badly. Women have to power and the intellect to make thinks better. Women are smarter and far more intuitive than men.
I wish I could do more to help, but no idea how.
Anyway, thanks again!
This post was submitted by Rich.
In the context of a different discussion we were looking for exemples of famous feminists saying positive things about stay at home dads or men in traditionally feminine occupations. It was suggested that people here might be able to help. Thank you.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and have been living together for 2. We're really perfect together, hardly fight with each other (and when we do it's all pretty trivial), and overall he's the most amazing guy I've ever met.
Before we moved in together, I told him that I really didn't want to live with someone again (I lived with a previous boyfriend that ended in disaster) unless I was engaged, but I would make a concession if I knew that we were on that track, implying another 2 or 3 years before marriage. I've told him how important marriage is to me and that I want to be married and have kids and he seemed ok with that. Once we moved in together, he told me he wasn't sure of the idea of marriage and kids and has been waffling ever since. Sometimes he'll talk about our future together with kids and marriage and other times he's completely against it. I figured he was waiting on our careers to settle and now they have.. I have a great job and he has his dream job with a very well paying salary. I've been holding out all year expecting him to pop the question.
Then out of the blue he told me he wanted to start his own company that would require him to spend possibly months overseas and was already meeting with people before he let me in on his plans. I'm really hurt that he wouldn't consider our future when making those decisions, or let me in on the conversation beforehand. He assured me he wants to be with me but wants another 5 or so years before marriage… I'm just not sure I can wait that long.
I feel a bit betrayed, like he led me on when we moved in together and I'm pretty crushed he doesn't feel the way I do. He now feels pressured by me which gets him super defensive, and he's not the best communicator to begin with. I absolutely don't want to pressure anyone into marrying me… I just want someone to WANT to marry me. Our relationship is perfect in every other sense, but this puts a big wedge in it. Am I placing too much emphasis on the idea of marriage and if so, how do I reconcile my feelings so we can continue our relationship? How long should someone wait?? (we also have another year on our lease)
tl;dr My boyfriend of 3.5 years is nowhere close to marriage but I am. I'm afraid it's driving a wedge between us and don't know how to reconcile my feelings.
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What are feminists doing to help those women in third world countries, particularly those where women are still seen as possessions of their husbands/fathers/brothers. I saw a documentary on women prisons in Afganistan – where women are punished for trying to escape abusive husbands. Are there any women's rights movement working to stop this?
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………could explain why men are ‘better at map reading’ And why women are ‘better at remembering a conversation’
A pioneering study has shown for the first time that the brains of men and women are wired up differently which could explain some of the stereotypical differences in male and female behaviour, scientists have said.
Researchers found that many of the connections in a typical male brain run between the front and the back of the same side of the brain, whereas in women the connections are more likely to run from side to side between the left and right hemispheres of the brain.
This difference in the way the nerve connections in the brain are “hardwired” occurs during adolescence when many of the secondary sexual characteristics such as facial hair in men and breasts in women develop under the influence of sex hormones, the study found.
The researchers believe the physical differences between the two sexes in the way the brain is hardwired could play an important role in understanding why men are in general better at spatial tasks involving muscle control while women are better at verbal tasks involving memory and intuition.
Psychological testing has consistently indicated a significant difference between the sexes in the ability to perform various mental tasks, with men outperforming women in some tests and women outperforming men in others. Now there seems to be a physical explanation, scientists said.
“These maps show us a stark difference – and complementarity – in the architecture of the human brain that helps to provide a potential neural basis as to why men excel at certain tasks, and women at others,” said Ragini Verma, professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia.
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