Cheated Again

I was sitting at home with my “boyfriend” last night, and we were enjoying reruns of Will & Grace, when I noticed that something was out of the ordinary. My “boyfriend” was texting during the show, which was strange because normally he loves the hilarious comedy antics of America’s favorite on-screen gay couple. I glanced over at the screen to see who he was texting and what did I see? I saw the the name Kelly…

I didn’t really think a whole lot of it, but then I realized that I don’t know any of his friends named Kelly. Was Kelly a “man” or a Woman? I decided to ask him.

“Honey, who is Kelly?” I sheepishly asked.
He shoved his phone into his pocket.
“Uh, no-one dear,” he hurriedly replied.

At this point I realized that something was definitely wrong, I mean my “boyfriend” never did this kind of thing. I was beginning to get worried.

“Are you sure?” I asked.
“Look, there’s something that I’ve been needing to tell you,” he whispered.

I started to tear-up as I only expected the worst at this point. I had an idea of what was happening, but I didn’t want it to be true. I just wanted it all to be over.

“What is it?” I demanded.
“I’m… I’m… I’m a straight cis male. I’m not gay, I just can’t go on like this, I’m in love with a woman, and there’s nothing I can do about these emotions.” he responded.

I was stunned. I was shocked. I’ve always identified as a demisexual, lithromantic, transabled, mermaidkin, and I assumed that my “boyfriend” did too. Now I was left with nothing. My whole life was in shambles. I don’t that at any point in herstory anyone has felt the pain that I felt, I mean, I was in love.

So, ihatemen.org, I come to you for support, I just don’t know what to do with myself. I just really need help, what can I do?

This post was submitted by Hates Men.

I always vote for the ladies on singing competitions….

As with every singing competition, White Guys with guitars are threats to the ladies, I founded this web site Voteforthegirls.us on April 28, 2010. The site promotes votes only for the female contestants.

I do belive that WGWG’s are the enemy and have been blamed for female front-runners of American Idol’s female contestants like Pia Toscano and Malaya Watson and to a lesser extent The X Factor USA and The Voice of America, As a woman that is officially a manhater, it makes perfect sense for my site Vote for the Girls and this site (IHateMen.org) to totally sync up, which is fine? Or do you really hate the male contestants when they win these singing competitions?

I’m serious. Looking forward to replies.

NOTE: Ava Zinn is the founder and webmaster of Vote for the Girls USA (voteforthegirls.us) and UK (voteforthegirls.co.uk). She is a transgendered woman that identifies her sexual orientation as a lesbian to reflect her gender identity as a woman.

This post was submitted by Ava.

i hate men so much!!

im an independent buisness women and everyday at work all my coworkers keep staring at me whenever i walk around or they think i cannot see them doing it >:-O !!!
i was born with a big chest and while i was proud if it as a teenager it realy started to bother me :-(

why must men be such pigs? noone i dated seemed remotely interested in me as a person. when im not having sex with them in the first 1 2 month they usually leave me. i had a friend that left me after i refused to “titfuck” him!!!!

argh >:-(

This post was submitted by Regina.

It was ignorance

Growing up; 14, 15 years old, I often shacked up men much older than me. My first “boyfriend” was in his mid-thirties. By 16 a man twice my age had me pregnant. He was arrestable and ran to the copshop to turn himself in when he’d discovered I was pregnant. My father did not want anything to do with me, and so at 16 I was pregnant and alone. During my pregnancy I lived with a 46 year old man. He already had a son and painted the Big Happy Family picture, and didn’t follow through. I discovered he was “into pregnant young girls” ditched me soon after the child was born (I’m intelligent-obviously the baby was adopted 8 weeks after his birth).
I went through a phase in my adulthood where I felt screaming rage at theses pigs, these pedophiles! I hated them, and felt seething anger. I wanted to see them in jail.
I began to realize that, while they did take advantage of my ignorance, they had my consent (more or less) to do so.
I don’t play the victim card; I simply avoid the victimizers now. I do not trust the motives of men.

This post was submitted by OriginalWoman.

Why can’t we appreciate one another?

More often than not, to obtain/maintain a long-term relationship, a woman is expected give up her free time, autonomy, peace of mind, and her dreams for a man. For those who don’t believe this to be true, I will explain my position.

She is expected to do the things that take the most time and energy daily; like care for the children, cook, clean, run household errands, entertain, do household shopping, do laundry. There isn’t enough time left for sleep, much less for personal time and freedom. For this reason, much is expected in return from the man; i.e. honesty, devotion, romance, respect, safety, and financial support. After all, he isn’t expected to give up as much freedom.

The expectations placed on him are definitely very stressful, but he generally has more financial power at home, relaxation time, and freedom to come and go. I know this is a more traditional arrangement, but it is still the norm as far as I can tell by observing my sisters’, aunts’, and mother’s marriages. Now, tell me. Which role would you choose if presented with the option?

People should do whatever works and makes them happy, but I’d choose the role that allowed for more freedom and power myself. I’m sure there are plenty of people who don’t follow this tradition, and I think these roles should be tweaked a little more often. I think there can be more of a balance that takes some pressure off of the man and gives the woman more personal freedom.

Would most men go for this though? I don’t think they’d want to because I think their role has the most perks…

This post was submitted by Laurice.

With Good Reason

As a very young child I was molested by my father and his brother (who was only 13)
My mother was always around to protect me, but if he couldn’t f&$@ me he beat me. As I grew into a beautiful teenager, he beat me more often…I woke up with him jacking off over me one time. I ran away from home.
20 years later, my father begged for forgiveness and took counselling.
Easter 6 years ago, I was 30. He was alone with me for a minute, and he pinned me down wanting me to kiss him. When I protested, screamed for help, he called me a ‘cock tease’ THIS IS MY FATHER!!!!
No wonder men disgust and scare me

This post was submitted by OriginalWoman.

sick and tired of being sick and tired!!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

Ok,
I am a stay home mom who has been taken for granted too long! The sad thing is i know most of you are thinking its the kids. No, its my selfish, self centered fiancée. I wouldnt dare call him my husband!

All week i stay home dealing with the daily drama associated with having kids. Im not complaining about THEM, I love them and they make my life worth living. But my this man of mine would rather spend time with his dead beat drunken friends then put any time into us! he keeps saying he stays home some days but when u sit next to someone and still feel alone, there is a problem.

I honestly know for a fact that i having falling out of love with him! Im not in love with him at all. I find myself hating when he is around but find myself angry because he isnt trying to repair us! I know, if he isnt trying why stay? well with five kids in the mix of this cluster fuck I cant be selfish and only think of me.

But i keep telling myself that i am setting a bad example for my children. Children grow up to imitate what they witnessed growing up. I dont want my children to feel that disrespect , selfish, and one sided is the way to be in a relationship. And im scared to death that my girls will be weak because of how they see me.

Yes, i think im weak. Yes, i feel trapped and no, i was not always this way! Before this man i was the light that lit up any room. The sweetest person you could meet. My grandmother always called me Sugar, she said i was too sweet for this world. i guess she was right! This man has taken everything from me, and has left me at home in a little jar on the highest shelf so he can take me down to play with when he feels fit. Its to the point that my friends hate him. When we speak the first thing they ask, “have you left yet?” I know its never right to stay for the kids especially when your miserable but I cant just walk away.

I thought that writing this would help me blow off steam but reading this i sound foolish. I know im being vague and im all over the place but its really too much shit to type! I promise you i could write a book on my life, and it would sell.

I have so much too say but don’t know where to start. I mean i practically run this man business, take care of kids, and still try to please him within not leave my house for more than 5 hours accumulated. Im about to pop! I have to find a way to get all of this out!

- Jaded

This post was submitted by Jaded.

Idiot stalker

I met a guy about a year ago on the bus. He seems nice, gentle, a little bit goofy looking. Effeminate, which I appreciate in a man. He gave his number to me. I waited two weeks to call.
We went to dinner, we had coffee, we went to the woods on a hike with a campfire. A few awkward, sloppy kisses…I decided to keep him in the friend zone.
Here’s the problem. He professes to “be in love with me” I expressed clearly that I did not reciprocate. And then in typical male fashion begins to persistently try to wear away my resistance. I mean long love letters in my mailbox, epic emails describing the excitement of his loins etc. I try and re center everything around “JUST FRIENDS” and he resorts to calling me names.
I’ve had other men call him, I’ve had my mother call him, I’ve asked his brother to speak to him. Leave me the fuck alone.

This post was submitted by OriginalWoman.

why?

Hello, i have a question,
How come its not ok for a man to say anything bad about a girl but when i girl makes a site like this its ok is this in powering to women ?
Are Men already Powered And if we are and the world is sooo anti- women then why is there sites like these that are just fine and t-shirts that per mote third world acts like stoning men ok but stoning women not

Miami men suck

I’m tired of living in Miami, I tried to give it a chance but it’s not working out. This place is the most superficial city that can and will keep you single for a long time simply because men have many options, easy options and do not have to work for anything to happen. Miami has been rated before as one of the most miserable cities, one of the dumbest cities and the worst place to have a family. Most women in Miami look like supermodels, toned bodies, beautiful skin, dressed to the nines or barely any clothes so if you weight 140 lbs like me and have a skin disease known as vitiligo guys are not exactly lining up for you. I used to be really thin and tall but guys never asked me when they saw the white spots on my skin and always thought ” I can do better” or “What will my friends/family think?” They suddenly ignored me, never called me back, were rude after realizing I had a condition outside of my control so I made the math in my mind and just relaxed about men and that it will never happen for me. I don’t want to get married or have kids for this and other important reasons, it’s just too dangerous to build a life around some guy and a kid that may get hurt later on life and of course it’s jut me to emotionally/psychologically/spiritually get worse.

Yet I love to give affection, support and love to someone I give a fuck about, or at this point a stranger would do but men make it so damn difficult I feel like I’m walking into a labyrinth when I’m with one. Guys love to say that women are too complicated but men are also guilty of being rather unclear, confusing and just full of it. We have come up with such ways to make basic human relations so fucking hard to get into by writing ridiculous dating books with “rules” full of nonsense that even if two people like each other they may break apart at the slightest offense or misunderstanding. Thanks for nothing idiots, our grandparents didn’t need any damn books with rules such “don’t call him before three days” to successfully date or court, get into a relationship, marry and have all this lovely people in your family. I know that at the core this is a plan to disintegrate society and make us weaker for control, I read about the Illuminati and their plans and I see it all happening right now.

Modern men have such passivity it drives insane when it’s associated with feminism as if a woman wanting to have her own money, the right to vote and own property denied for generations ruins men ability to still be men. If that is the case then im pretty sure men are very weak underneath their non caring attitude.

However I do recognize that radical feminism (different from the original movement) has indeed made major harm.For example girls are too easy here,they condition men to treat us like dirt and in return guys call us bitches, don’t pursue us, are too passive and if you are not nearly perfect they don’t want you at all. It takes both genders to get to this mess, men got in this condition because of women and viceversa women they talk about their sex lives loudly in elevators and have no modesty or tact, honestly they brought on themselves to have horrible men by their side.

Guys also have it too easy all they do is go down to a club and meet stunning amazonian women with colleges degrees and ready to go to bed with them the same night….that way they don’t have to bother with women like me with health problems, spirituality, a love for knowledge and a certain degree of shyness…and if they want to get married there are “the special girls” ready to tie the knot.They’d be idiots to not take things that come to them easy. So when they get used to women paying attention, chasing them and having sex with them nice and easy without any effort on their part. Mind you, these women who give it up easily are only around for a short time because the man gets bored, but unfortunately it’s kind of spoiling it for the rest of us and making men passive and lazy!

When things are easily accessible and in unlimited quantities; they tend to be taken for granted and lose value and this applies to women and sex.

In fact my only boyfriend at 26 years old( only lasted a month) left me as soon as I got hypothyroidism and I went alone to hospitals almost dying..so it’s just not in my head..guys don’t like sick chicks but he had a busted leg and aspergers and didn’t ****ing bother me. Also he was the stereotype of the nice guy geek all day in the computer which tells me that it really doesn’t matter what they do or don’t do. The so called nice guys, the nerds and geeks, the spiritual one, the poetic one, the sensitive one have been the equivalent of a bulldozer running through my spine while the tough guy is looking more appealing to me, perhaps he is more of an actual satisfaction even if he’s a jerk and I have never dated one..but im getting sick of these crying softies…

I know all guys are not like this because then I read about a girl in Miami which her boyfriend came from another state after talking online and she got a stroke, but the guy stood by her side the whole time in the hospital and then married her some time later and she didn’t look like a supermodel, of course the guy was not from Miami or any place in Florida so it really depends…

I just found this research article conforming my suspicions “A lot of women who are serious, who come from more conservative backgrounds, find it very hard to start relationships with men in Miami because they’ve been effected by women who are very easy, so male expectations for intimacy are pretty high.” BINGO I thought I was crazy for believing such thing in the first, but honest observations rarely fail.

I’m sorry English is not my first language and me being a caribbean Spanish woman I thought it would be different for me at this stage of my life when all my friends are already married or have someone important in their lives yet none of these girls have my problem and they really haven’t encountered rejections like mine. Some days I feel in total peace about it, some others I want to kill men and have violent fantasies mixed with spiritualism and “the right behavior” to go about this. There’s no right behavior, I’m hurt yet cool about this earthy experiences and my response has been satisfactory yet utterly devoid of love, passion and caring for a male…

This post was submitted by sarahan.

Are we really that bad?

To be upfront, I’m a man. Been married for over two decades to the same woman. Like everyone, we’ve had our share of ups and downs. Was doing some research on the web about the importance of men and dads in the lives of daughters when I came across this site.

Are we, I mean men, really that bad?

Neither my wife or I are perfect. Weeks into our marriage, she cheated. Felt so guilty that she hid it, and our sex life was anemic the first year. My eye started wandering which made her upset. Counseling improved things, but we still have our issues.

I guess my question is, are men the enemy? Are we solely to blame? Is this site only to blow humorously off a little steam, which is fine? Or do you really hate men?

I’m serious. Looking forward to replies.

This post was submitted by Allen.

Last single woman among my friends

It sounds silly, but it’s true. Either inherently or learned, I (and I assume many other women) believed deep down that happiness came only from a long-lasting romantic relationship with a man.

When I became the last single woman standing among my friends and sisters I was angry. They no longer cared about me because they were devoted to their men. I knew that was how things worked, and I would now simply need to find a few single girl-friends. However, being in that position, I felt it was pretty stupid to shut out lifelong friends and family members to give your mind, body, and soul to a man who isn’t going to return the favor.

I think women do this because they are shocked and elated that a man loves them enough to make a commitment. They value him more than themselves. This can eventually rob her of her happiness or drive him away; the two things she wanted to prevent.

I’ve done it and I never wish to do engage in that type of behavior again. Not all women do this. Some women maintain their identity, friends, and interests whether single or married. Those are the women I respect and love. I don’t know what the future holds for me, but I’m excited to face it with a new spirit. I’m no longer angry, just a little opinionated.

This post was submitted by Laurice.