There are so many blogs and web pages written for women about how to get a man, keep him and make him stay around. These are generally awful and make it seem like it’s a woman 100% responsibility to make someone else fall for you and the guy it’s just a robot that reacts to enhanced female looks, psychological tricks and “triggers for attraction”.Renee Wade is one of these women who things just being authentic, feminine and open is all you need to get that dream to worship you (not my words but hers)
I’m just tired of these idiot authors not talking about the real problem which is society at large that profits from men and women fighting all the time.It takes two for a real relationship to happen so even if you are the best you can be and the best you can look, you are not going to be successful if the other person is an absolute train wreck. Most women have already a good shoulder on their heads. They are commitment oriented, love intensely and would do whatever for their partners ( I know I have). Men on the other hand apparently need lots of coaching to do the same as us, but the help they get from the internet is about how to seduce us and get away with more stuff.
And after he has seduced her, what the hell is next? Didn’t you know the actual feat would be keeping a woman around when all your flaws and imperfections are exposed? Why do men celebrate that his friend got some but celebrate less when the woman has accepted his ugly side as well for the long run? WTF! Anybody can get laid, it takes balls to be with someone and compromise. Now that should get a round of applause!
I had no idea how to feel while reading these webpages because it’s painting us a pretty picture but my reality is rather dark.All I know is of the constant bullying during childhood by boys and later as an adult a complete strangeness that made me never have a relationship of any kind with them.I was never good enough no matter what I did, no matter what I looked like. When I was thin man would tell me to eat a hamburger and other derogatory things, now that I weight 140 I’m just plain invisible. If im quiet, I’m criticized, If I talk it’s not good enough either. If I express sexual desire the guy walks away, If I’m a virgin nobody wants you, if you become pregnant you are an idiot and if you choose abortion you are satan. Well,well, well the male brain is contradictory and dangerous to your self esteem after all.
In fact women with disabilities or diseases should stay away altogether. I have been to different hospitals lately for my failing health and noticed ( overhearing their conversations )that all the women there are alone, their husbands/boyfriends decided that whatever is more important to being with their significant other at a difficult time and to just adds more fire to my view of men.
I felt alone as well and my male doctors were not supporting, one even kicked me out of his clinic because I requested an ultrasound in another clinic to check my thyroid and he got mad the money didn’t go to him and just dropped me. My own father called me names and my mom recently told me he hit her while she was pregnant and was cold toward us, FUCK THEM ALL!
I want to be reasonable, I want to be open minded and hope there’s one at least that is different but then I realized women in relationships have to keep a circus show at home to keep them from drifting away. That is not what I would call a good or desirable life as the results are less than the actions to get there.Men ask so much of women but have so little to give themselves it’s almost pathetic..
And then we have the so called exemptions which most women have never experienced. If all men that have crossed my path were bad to me….ALL MEN AND NOT SOME MEN WERE BAD TO ME.I don’t care if some guys in Colorado, Russia or Venezuela are absolute gentleman to all women because I don’t live there, therefore I will never encounter him, I did not experience the exemption yesterday or today or ever..
And it’s really a shame because as a latina in the latin/hispanic community I am the only one in my group of friends that never had a boyfriend at 26, in fact quite strange. All of my friends have latino boyfriends and now I understand why. I had a short term thing with an american that was also a virgin and I thought it was going to work out.After his first kiss, hugging and touching a little it quickly got to his ego and he started ignoring me, that’s it.
Men sometimes look at me but don’t invite me anywhere, it just hurts after all this time. I am 5’7, hourglass figure, brunette and love to read about everything and do sports, that didn’t get me anywhere, nothing does because men there’s always something better around the corner… good luck with that. She is also thinking anybody is better than you and she will dump you as well, with such mentality we will continue to have more broken homes, divorces and broken hearts. I tried my best and it just feels I’m going to be single forever as I just figured out how this whole dating thing works and it just very disheartening from beginning to end…
This post was submitted by sarahan.