The existence of the Homo Sapiens Sapiens, our species, is estimated to be roughly 4 million years.
We have come a long way during this time, turning from simple hunter gatherers, with primitive tools to the apex predators (And main threat to all life.) with sophisticated tools that allow our current quality of life (At least for the minority who live in the first world.), and might even enable us to spread outside our little blue planet in the relatively near future.
But looking around, i have to say, we are an utter failure as social animals. One would think sentience, self awareness would allow us to transcend our instinctual social behavior, and replace it with something better, like how our ingenuity, our tools have replaced the need for claws, fangs and four legs with witch one could outrun a lion or a wolf.
Instead, i look around me, and have to realise, in one aspect, we not only didn’t progress, but made things worst.
Witness any debate on the internet ever, look at it not as a participant, remove your own opinions, feelings from the equation, and what do you see?
Behavior not unlike chimpansees fighting eachother for supremacy. Nobody really cares about the object of the debate, one could beat them over their heads with panfully obvious facts, they would still go on. And why is that?
Because people do not argue to come closer to the truth, they argue for an imaginary position, for social standing with a nonexistent group. A pathetic and useless excercise to assert their position, regardless how wrong that position is, or how meaningless it is when the tribal groups for witch this kind of behavior evolved are long gone.
Oh i am no exception either, only later did i realise, how many times i was dragged along in these by an instinct that both our upbringings and are education fails to eliminate.
What i didn’t do, but witnessed enough times, was how people who supposedly love eachother do the same. (None of my relationships ever lasted long enough to have a real argument. Now i start to think, maybe i should be thankful for that.) The fights about nothing, the shaming and emotional blackmailing, manipulating or intimidating the other. The treatment of the one you supposedly love, as if he/she was an object, or a posession. (And lets not even start on when the parents treat their children like they were property.)
It is truly disgusting to witness it, and neither party can claim innocence. Don’t think either women or men are better in this regard, because i keep witnessing it, and i have yet to see a “loving couple” where when this happens, its not both doing it to the other.
Someone else once said, if she wanted a good partner, she have to wait for an alien to run up. Well i have to agree, it seems its the same for me. If i want a truly loving relationship, the only hope would be aliens of some kind.
I wish i could say there is hope that we can figure this out, kinda how people figured out sligly better governing then nobility, better ways of life then hunting, gathering and hopefully not starving in winter, better tools then rock splinters and wooden spears.
But who am i kidding? People smarter then me have been trying for thousands of years,
Choices are celibacy or a partner who will basicly be your enemy given enough time.
This post was submitted by Muzolf.