Selfish

I am 18. I have never kissed a boy. My mother is such a good person and every she has been taken advantage of by men. Even in my brother I can see the arrogance and selfishness most men seem to have in abundance. They are so insincere. I will never be in a romantic relationship because it is not worth it. I don’t need a man. Thank God I have learnt from my mother’s suffering. I will never have to put my dreams on hold to raise children.

This post was submitted by nicole.

A conversation between man and himself. You’re just a bystander afterall.

Now listen here little woman, you know nothing about your own womanhood. Let me explain it to you in mans terms. You see, men don’t understand why harrassing or sexually abusing a woman is wrong. They need it explained to them in clear terms before they are held accountable for their abuse. They need a little wiggle room, you see there little woman, because if they dont understand WHY IT HURTS SOMEONE to abuse them, then they will just continue doing it anyway. You should accept this reality miss, as all of your female ancestors have, that men will need a damn good reason to stop hurting women. And it all starts with that explanation that you can’t seem to muster up. See, you don’t know anything about yourself do you? Let me explain it to you, Sit there and look pretty as I tell you everything I have learned about women over the years. Wait…you want to speak for yourself? You can’t do that. It threatens my masculinity and apparent fountain of knowledge about everything. In fact there little woman, it makes me feel powerless. Now I asked you a question you can’t seem to answer, but thats okay because I wasnt listening to you anyway. Im too busy trying to dissect the deep seeded reasons as to why men abuse women sexually. Why do we think its okay? Maybe we should ask ourselves more questions, because our answers are more important than yours.. Hey wait, bitch, shut the fuck up for a second. And let me talk about everything you have ever had to suffer with. Allow me to educate you as to why you don’t know any better. I’m not expecting you to agree with me, in fact I don’t care what you think. I just want you to know that, we haven’t gotten around to womens concerns quite yet. We need a little more explaining before we can put a stop to the abuse. Why don’t you just let us handle It????

This post was submitted by ireallydohatemenipromise.

Cool website!

I’m going to give some background about myself so everyone can understand why I dislike most men.

1) I was sexually abused by boy in my family when I was very young.

2) I witnessed my aunt being verbally and physically abused by my uncle.

3) I was verbally assaulted on several occasions by teen boys in grade school.

4) I witness other girls getting verbally and physically assaulted in grade school.

The main reason I hate men.

1) They have no self-control.
And when I say no self-control I’m talking about sexually. It seems like our society kind of shrugs their shoulders and say” boys will be boys” . Or even condone their behavior on the radio I heard a two men talking about getting caught cheating on their spouses and laughing about it. How is that supposed to make me feel as a woman? I am very aware that men have very strong sexual urges. But what are we doing as a society to help them control it? Women like me are suffering emotionally because it seems like all they want is our bodies and having sex with as much women as possible.

The media is terrible when it comes to this, men are so bombarded with sexual images and sexual innuendo all around them. So should I really be surprise that I was abused?

This post was submitted by noinoi.

Why is it that Men love Cigars

Why is it that men love cigars way more than women?

It is such a male thing

New to the group

I thought it was ironic that the front page of this website claims not to discriminate, yet the title of this group is in itself discriminatory. I was wondering if this was a bit of irony-on-purpose, or some weird attempt to apologize to men again? What I see is that women are constantly at the butt of the joke. Our tits, ass, womanhood, sexuality, feminity- always up for a good laugh at a womans expense. Many of these status quo saying are considered normal, such as calling a white tanktop a “wife beater” and it becomes the every day lingo. Many jokes about women are violent- and people laugh at them all the time. Rape jokes are all too common. When we say we hate men, why can’t we just hate them? I think that it would be justified, after all the bullshit we go through. I see posts on here that echo my entire past experience with most men. I have dated a few who were wonderful and kind hearted, but the majority were either using, lying or trying to abuse me. When I say majority I really do mean that. The earliest memory I have of being harrassed by a man, I was 7 years old and someone pulled over their car to kidnap me. This has happened numerous times over the years, and when I was homeless for an extended period of time- It was the worst. I was stalked by multiple men, and one situation where I almost did not make it out alive. I grew up with a father who made countless inappropriate sexual remarks about my body, particularily my breasts. He would make fun of me for “not having a rack like your mom”, and “when are you gonna grow a pair”. My dad had a violent temper that he would never take out on my brothers, he would just yell at me, literally scream down my throat at times. I had to learn how to be bigger than him, angrier and meaner to survive. An ex boyfriend held me down and choked me out when I tried to get him to leave my friends house, after he told me that no one wanted to have sex with me because I was sexually abused as a kid. Oh yeah, and theres that time when I was a kid. I was 12 and my brothers friend molested me. The sad thing is that for too many years, I became used to the reality of the catcalls, the sexual connotation behind almost every conversation with a man, the harrassment. I even thought it was normal, way back then, that my dad would say those things to me. And in a way I was right, It was normal. It was normal to hear those things from many men. I closed down and accepted it. I began to make sexist comments too. I felt like I was fighting against myself, because in this society- sexism is the accepted norm. Now I see women speaking out, in more radical ways than ever. Forums online are filling up with feminists holding it down. Men come along just the same, and infer to us that we don’t know our own womanhood well enough. That we shouldnt be upset over a few jokes, jokes that may have very well been a reality for TOO MANY OF US, jokes that may have altered our lives- Because we were raped, beaten or otherwise. But lets laugh about it. And when women are tired of laughing about it, we are told YET AGAIN that we are putting too much thought in it. That somehow we dont know what concerns us. That somehow we dont have that sick feeling in our gut in public situations, bars, or otherwise. A gut feeling which often turns out to be true. Why is it that I have to scan every man I meet for being a potential threat to me? Why is it that I can’t walk down the street without literally looking over my shoulder every block, corner, alleyway and bush? I refuse to stop looking, because if I slip up just once? I might be victimized again. Why do we think its okay to allow men in on these forums, to continue spouting their entitled opinions and making debates over something that… really has nothing to do with their opinions. It has to do with our safety, sanity and health…sometimes even our lives. If a man wants to be an ally, maybe he should be the one shutting up for a change. Maybe he should just listen, and understand that we know what threatens us. Maybe he should stop putting his 2 cents in, and ask what he can do to help.

This post was submitted by ireallydohatemenipromise.

Detox from men

I am not in the mood to date, have no desire to at the current moment. I decided to detox from men; meaning no sex and no looking for quick hook ups.

I have decided to get rid of all the men I have been talking too. All my requirements for any form of S.O. is honesty and respect. The only two things I never get from these guys! I have gotten rid of all my men except one I can not seem to shake. We have been fooling around for about a year and I am the other woman. I don’t love him and don’t believe any of the sweet nothings he says to me. I am having trouble shaking him off because he talks to me everyday and calls me so he now has become a habit I have to break (which was probably his plan)

Does anyone have any advice to shake this guy? Or past experiences? I can’t quit him cold turkey because where he lives is a prime location. He lives 5 minutes away from me, which means it is very easy for us to see each other. I was thinking a gradually distancing myself from him. Has anyone tried that? Does it work or only cold turkey seems to work??

This post was submitted by dskins.

I hate men?

Lately I’ve been feeling as though I hate men. I hear of men cheating on women every day. I hear of men using girls, and laughing at girls for thinking they were in serious relationships. But I’ve never been in a relationship myself. I’m scared to even approach a relationship because i’m afraid all men are horrible. I read somewhere that men are not capable of loving other women, and all they want is sex. I’m so confused and I don’t want to hate men but that’s how I feel right now.

This post was submitted by ariel.

The science of sex: 4 harsh truths about dating and mating

Barking up the wrong tree

To make the best decisions, we cannot delude ourselves.

I’ve posted many studies offering hope and inspiration but to be honest and fair, we also need to look at facts about people many like to deny.

And that’s where the science of sex comes in.

If you wish to retain illusions that the realm of sex and relationships is pure as the driven snow or that outside of physical dimensions there are no fundamental differences between men and women, turn back now as I am about to open a large can of peer-reviewed whoop-ass.

Naive romantics, I warn you one last time:

ABANDON ALL HOPE YE WHO ENTER HERE

So what are some harsh truths that the science of sex has shown us?

1) Those things we say we hate actually make us more attracted to people.

When someone plays hot-cold, keeps you guessing, makes you constantly uncertain?

Yeah, that makes you even more attracted:

 

theweek.com/article/index/266665/the-science-of-sex-4-harsh-truths-about-dating-and-mating

This is a must read  :)

 

This Post Was Submitted By Rock The Mod

Save the “boobies” – not the humans, the “boobies”..? Childish entitlement reminiscent to that of babies. Sexualisation of BREAST CANCER because it contains BREASTS. This is the equivalent to gay men hypothetically sexualising prostates in prostate cancer and the hypothetical sexualisation of testicles in testicular cancer primarily by straight women.

(sections reposted) “it’s pretty obvious that men only want to invest in breast cancer research to further degrade, objectify, and jerk off to body parts they already feel 100% entitled to. that’s what is at stake for them. “boobies”
what about the women whose “boobies” weren’t saved? how must they feel being surrounded by awareness ads that focus entirely on keeping women’s sexy-sexy-boobies.”

“this is a forum for breast cancer support. Give it a read, and you’ll see how many women are outright abandoned by their husbands, sometimes after being married for decades, because their “boobies” couldn’t be saved.”

“This culture of “save the boobies” even goes as far as the doctor’s offices themselves. Most doctors request that the husband be present during surgical consultations, as though he has an equal say in the patient-professional discussion. “(?????????)

Similar to how when women want to get their tubes tied they need their husbands ‘permission’????????? UGH. Ofc men don’t need anyone’s permission for a vasectomy

“If the woman is single, as was my case, doctors have actually recommended postponing surgery until she finds a relationship, because “it could be nearly impossible to find someone who accepts it [your unnatural boobies] in years to come”.

“Also let’s not forget this dispicable event in male history “Public Response to Angelina Jolie’s Mastectomy Proves We Still See Women As Body Parts”

Don’t you fudging dare complain about people bringing this up and talking about it. Funny how the mere people who talk about how WRONG this is are the ones who get met with vitriol and criticism instead of the culture society and *people* (….) (don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings!!!) who perpetuate this ???? bizzare. and also disgusting. dont you fudging dare spount some bs about “ohh my argument against issues like this are.. OH women complain too much! and men are always satisfied and have ZERO responsibility for any issues ever it is merely women complaining even though they have nice lives and jobs y are they complaining???

save 2nd base???! because what is on the line for males, is THEIR PLEASURE which they derive from breasts during foreplay or ‘second base’. save this precious potential for male pleasure!!

This behaviour is WRONG. These attitudes are WRONG and disgusting.

This post was submitted by chrome95.

I honestly don’t understand Gamergate.

I'm a male gamer, but I'm not really informed on what's going on with this. I mean, of course I've heard about it, but to my understanding it's just a want to have games that have stronger female protagonists/roles, right? That makes sense to me, but if it were just that, then why is there such a big backlash?

Just to be clear, I'm not sure if I really consider myself a feminist, but I don't see what the big deal is about if games have stronger female characters. It's not like it takes away from the quality of the game. It just doesn't add up for me as to why this is a huge controversy.

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What you see if what you get

It does what it says on the tin, your on a website called I hate men, that’s what is. Now you don’t like a women to insult you in anyway on here but yet you seem to think that you can insult her and end the argument. See that sounds hypocritical to me, if you say that men are not what they are usually portrayed as, why are you giving me the reason to think so in your comments. Sometimes I’m sick of hating, and sometimes I can’t help but hate from the deep rooted resentment that I have, and sometimes it makes me ill, because I’m so concerned with my hatred for men instead of looking after myself, I need to stop letting things get to me on here. Maybe I should just let them get on with it and enjoy the rest of my life and the time that I have before it’s to late. I know it’s easy said than done, but I really need to try and save myself from the misery of my past. I hope I can feel better one day and all this resentment would disappear for good, because it’s ruining my life.

This post was submitted by ItsTrueAspects.

Enforcement’s of Society

Hello there, I have seen some of the submissions on this site and only one word in mind: wow. Most of the problems you face are either psychological or emotional. Men, you shouldn’t have to hate women, you’re not being forced to stay with your woman you can leave. Women, you may say that you hate men but is that really how you feel? Not all men are heart breaking assholes, there are a good amount of genuinely amazing men who will treat you like you’re meant to be treated but you’ll never find them if you continue behaving with such a scornful attitude towards men. Instead of filling the world with your hate why not show love to all people? We are all part of the same race and knowing that some people (Men and Women) have this much scorn and hate on their heart is alarming. Please show kindness and treat people the way you wish to be treated.

This post was submitted by MisandryAndFeminism.